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Who could have predicted that constantly saying all men are trash could have negative impacts???

And to be clear in no way am excusing the behavior of people who respond in this fashion, but I can also understand how they ended up where they did.

I completely understand hating some people from any category of anything, but when you broadly blame ALL of a group you are absolutely going to alienate people who were either on your side or neutral. I think this is exactly what happened to a lot of guys. They were just sitting there minding. Their business and suddenly they are being told that they are inherently evil and shitty just because they are men. They hear it on the news and on social media. Pop culture takes a shit on them too once in awhile.

It doesn’t exactly take a rocket scientist to see how this could end up twisting around in the minds of some of them.

I don’t have the specific answers for how to combat this sort of stuff completely, but I think a good starting point would be to have more targeted criticisms as opposed to just going after an entire gender broadly. I think that has clearly done more damage for gender relations than it has helped anything so far.

Just my 2 cents as a guy who has seen some old friends who were once self proclaimed feminists now go full on into hating women. It’s sad to see.

I’m a tad older than you, but I also had all my long term relationships come out of prior friendships. Dating is straight up toxic nowadays. Dry one-sided conversations where you feel you’re the only one even making an attempt. Women randomly ghosting you after what seemed like good interactions. Some women who seemed genuinely interested vanished or got hostile when I suggested we split the bill on a first date. Women who’s profiles say they are looking for relationships but when you talk it’s clear they just want to hook up or try and use you as a wallet. Women who agree to dates and cancel when you’re already driving to the restaurant or at the restaurant. Or worse the ones that just don’t even show up or respond despite planning a date.

It’s just exhausting and sad. At least as an average looking dude with a normal job and life. So many women these days seem to expect to be taken to HELLA fancy restaurants or they get offended when you try and take them to something slightly unusual/unique.

I deleted all the dating profiles awhile ago and I’ve felt so much better. At this point in my life I’m just gonna do my own thing and if I happen to bump into someone I won’t fight it, but actively attempting to date had pushed me closer to suicide than anything since my deep COVID depression or highschool.

Best of luck out there man. It’s a shit show for all of us don’t worry.