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Agreed, email hosting is a pain. Also don’t get me started on just how unfriendly large email providers are to self-hosted email. Typically always false flagging it as spam and sometimes bouncing or dropping it instead of even sending to spam folder. People downplay this problem but it’s a serious problem when it comes to self-hosted or non-corporate email services.

This is amazing, it’s nice to have a scoring system to be able to rate how decentralized and also how active the different services are.

Mastodon and Sharkey (Misskey fork), though I use Sharkey much less.

I also have a Matrix account which is a different kind of Federated service (chat and instant messaging) though not Federated in the same way as Lemmy and Mastodon (uses a different federation protocol).

What do you think Federate means? It absolutely does, Matrix Federates over the Matrix protocol, which is a separate protocol from Activitypub which is what Lemmy and Mastodon use. It doesn’t Federate with Lemmy and Mastodon because they are different protocols but it absolutely does federate. Honestly there’s no reason for it to Federate with Lemmy and Masotodon. ActivityPub isn’t a good protocol to use for chatting, Matrix as a chat protocol is superior. Not to say that activitypub is bad, it’s great for social media platforms like forums and blogging, it’s just not good for instant messaging.

They certainly do not seem very tolerant of that now, they very commonly ban people for thinly veiled homophobia and transphobia that would normally slide on other sites. They do not even seem mildly willing to tolerate the intolerant.

Yeah Spinster is generally considered a hate site, and consequently is very widely defederated, even from general purpose instances like lemmy.world. Also it’s less of a Reddit alternative and more of a Twitter alternative but is technically redundant since you can do everything you did on there on the real thing instead.

I think that kind of goes without saying.

lemmy.blahaj.zone has a decent amount of women and both their admins are women, it’s not a “women’s space” as one would describe since everyone is welcome there but it’s probably the closest thing one would describe as an instance “by women for women”. I am obligated to mention that it is a queer instance and that many of the women there are either trans themselves or strongly supportive of trans people, and do not tolerate transphobia or anti-LGBT sentiment (including refusal to support LGBTQ people) at all.