So… the dishes were important enough for your partner to berate you about them multiple times, but not important enough for them to do the washing-up while you were out? Are they always your responsibility? Did you have a mutual conversation and understanding about chore division, or has your partner implicitly or explicitly assigned certain chores to you?
What measures of responsibility does your partner take for their own sleep? Sleep mask? Ear plugs? White noise? Weighted blanket? Other measures? Or is it all on you to accommodate them?
Would offering to sleep on the couch if you come home after they’re asleep feel like a reasonable compromise for you?
Does having a curfew set for you by your partner seem like a normal thing to you? Are you surprised that people here think it’s not normal?
Does your partner regularly use belittling or derogatory language towards you as you’ve detailed here? Does it feel to you that using such language is justified by your ADHD?
Does this situation seem like a one-off thing, or is it often a problem that you have not read your partner’s mind?
I think you’ve got some important questions to ask yourself here.
So… the dishes were important enough for your partner to berate you about them multiple times, but not important enough for them to do the washing-up while you were out? Are they always your responsibility? Did you have a mutual conversation and understanding about chore division, or has your partner implicitly or explicitly assigned certain chores to you?
What measures of responsibility does your partner take for their own sleep? Sleep mask? Ear plugs? White noise? Weighted blanket? Other measures? Or is it all on you to accommodate them?
Would offering to sleep on the couch if you come home after they’re asleep feel like a reasonable compromise for you?
Does having a curfew set for you by your partner seem like a normal thing to you? Are you surprised that people here think it’s not normal?
Does your partner regularly use belittling or derogatory language towards you as you’ve detailed here? Does it feel to you that using such language is justified by your ADHD?
Does this situation seem like a one-off thing, or is it often a problem that you have not read your partner’s mind?
I think you’ve got some important questions to ask yourself here.