

I’m sorry to say this, but your partner doesn’t seem very supportive. This will likely have to be a conversation between you two before it gets worse. This thing is probably racing around in your head because your relationship is important. So it’s all the more important to talk to your partner about these things.
Your not making it sound any better. It almost seems like you’re held hostage. This kind of behavior would piss me off like crazy, especially since I need the night time to myself. Its the only time of the day when I can finally relax and just do me-things.
Talk to your partner. If that doesn’t help, maybe suggest couple’s therapy. If they don’t comply, then it is a very one-sided thing and that’s not going to end well. I don’t know the whole story, so this may come off as harsh, but it is the information you’re giving us, which at the very least indicates that you’re not happy with the situation.
It’s not your fault that you have ADHD. Having ADHD doesn’t make you a bad person. All of my favorite people in my life have ADHD, except for my wife. But she is very understanding and helps me out a great deal. I try my best to repay that. Of course there are occasions where she’s fed up with my forgetfulness and whatnot, but that’s normal.
All the best to you, I hope you’ll work things out together!