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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • Like, you know how I handle this when I’m in your partner’s position? I say “cool, sounds fun, please do the dishes when you get in, I’ll probably be asleep by then.” If I wake up a little when they get in, I roll over and cuddle. Done.

    I bet that my heart was not the only one to skip a beat reading that. There are so many people stuck in toxic relationships that have no idea that such a healthy response is possible. They either brace for impact or preemptively attack in self defense.


  • I have been with my wife for 31 years and in my opinion the problem here is your partner, not you. My wife used to ask me to do all sorts of asinine things when we were young “to prove to her that I cared”. Stupid stuff like doing a specific thing every night without fail, which is impossible for someone with ADHD. These sort of demands were toxic and all they accomplished was to damage our relationship.

    If your partner cares about you, they should be considerate of your condition and make an effort to accommodate you. Also, interfering or putting pressures on your therapy/support is unacceptable.

    Please do not damage yourself for someone else.