• SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    They also ban real users instead of the people literally calling their gender “dragonfucker” and “attack helicopter”

    There were a bunch of users who got angry about these users mocking gender expression and then when they told the trolls to fucking stop Ada banned them

    The blahaj admins are trolls

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      I give Ada a lot of credit. In the early days, I had the following interaction:

      TOPIC: Something about sexual/gender preferences, I don’t remember, asking people their preferences

      Me: responds with my preferences (I’m straight cis male, I like women so I’m down with post-transition trans women but pre-transition don’t turn me on)

      Some random user: respectfully asks if I would be willing to date a pre-transition trans man

      Me: I guess, but it probably wouldn’t work due to the fact that what I like about their body, they hate

      Some of those professionally offended people took a misleading screenshot of my response and started screaming about “chasers”.

      Ada did an admin post to the community backing me up and calling those idiots out.

      So unless she’s changed a lot, I don’t think she’s a troll. It would have been easy to go with the mob but she stuck up for me.

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        Still could be TERFS.

        I don’t have any deeper knowledge of that instance, just what I saw in all, so I don’t want to put anything on them. That thought just came across reading your comment.

        I have made a mental remark in the past that the posts and users on this instance are better treated from afar, though.

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          1 month ago

          It’s pretty harsh to just casually suggest that a person be a TERF without any specific evidence.

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          i dont understand, please explain further. if blahaj mods have ignored misandry, that would be a bad thing. hate is generally regarded as bad, and misandry is hatred of men. therefore, misandry should be generally regarded as bad.

          edit: someone has explained this to me

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            1 month ago

            That’s true on face value. The issue is that accusations of misandry are almost always unfounded, and only made as a way to deflect and to attack women. So when people start talking about misandry, that’s generally a red flag.

            It’s similar to how “all lives matter” is definitely a true and good value - but yet it is almost always said as a way to divert support away from vulnerable groups. So although the literal meaning is good, it is fair to assume that people saying it do not have good intentions.